This really resonates and it’s only part of it, there’s also the ‘preparing things’ (birthday presents for parties, next size school uniform bought and labelled, getting stuff ready for the person you pay to clean but who you can’t expect to dig around in your cupboards - then the putting it all away again)….. the ‘contacting people about things’ (can the childminder cover strike day? Why has our home insurance price gone up so much and can they bring it back down again, please? Yes we would love to come to the birthday party and is there anything the child particularly wants as a gift? Can you come and sort out our roof issue that I noticed?)… the ‘attending things’ (the school picnic, the random singing in the playground, swimming lesson viewing day). Admittedly the more enjoyable side of parenting but it’s funny how I can plan to take a half day to attend something but husband is far too important to do the same - mysteriously that does not apply to random days off to go cycling, which brings me on to… ‘remembering things’ (how much annual leave we both have left to cover holidays & childcare closures etc., that it’s ‘wear red for random Tuesday day’ next week, that the shopping is coming later and you need to get home). So so so so so much stuff in my head constantly.
On the plus side (hopefully), my son now also notices things and sometimes acts upon the things he notices. He’s 6 and I couldn’t be more proud!
This resonates with me. I absolutely cannot leave a room without picking up or adjusting something. My partner once unwisely suggested I had OCD about stuff. I hit the roof, as its not that AT ALL....sigh. My son (age 15) actually instructs me now, not to pick up cups, pants, crisp packets etc from his room.....which feels odd as its my default thing, so now trying to unlearn!
This really resonates and it’s only part of it, there’s also the ‘preparing things’ (birthday presents for parties, next size school uniform bought and labelled, getting stuff ready for the person you pay to clean but who you can’t expect to dig around in your cupboards - then the putting it all away again)….. the ‘contacting people about things’ (can the childminder cover strike day? Why has our home insurance price gone up so much and can they bring it back down again, please? Yes we would love to come to the birthday party and is there anything the child particularly wants as a gift? Can you come and sort out our roof issue that I noticed?)… the ‘attending things’ (the school picnic, the random singing in the playground, swimming lesson viewing day). Admittedly the more enjoyable side of parenting but it’s funny how I can plan to take a half day to attend something but husband is far too important to do the same - mysteriously that does not apply to random days off to go cycling, which brings me on to… ‘remembering things’ (how much annual leave we both have left to cover holidays & childcare closures etc., that it’s ‘wear red for random Tuesday day’ next week, that the shopping is coming later and you need to get home). So so so so so much stuff in my head constantly.
On the plus side (hopefully), my son now also notices things and sometimes acts upon the things he notices. He’s 6 and I couldn’t be more proud!
I notice EVERYTHING. So glad I subscribed, will now read everything.
I feel noticed by you flagging this. My house is the same, I don’t get it. I
The tiny tabs inside my ears.... I feel seen! This is brilliant and spot on
This resonates with me. I absolutely cannot leave a room without picking up or adjusting something. My partner once unwisely suggested I had OCD about stuff. I hit the roof, as its not that AT ALL....sigh. My son (age 15) actually instructs me now, not to pick up cups, pants, crisp packets etc from his room.....which feels odd as its my default thing, so now trying to unlearn!